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Dogs, Revolutionary Road, and The Thunderous Sea of Silence

By posted at 6:58 am on November 23, 2009 6

I.
coverI’ve just finished reading Richard Yates’s Revolutionary Road. I can’t believe how good this is, is the refrain that’s been echoing in my mind.  Yates’s masterful prose, psychological insight, and immaculately rendered dramatic tension get all your pistons firing—emotional, intellectual, spiritual, sexual, political—as writer and reader at the same time, and in a way that makes analysis and critique of its many wonders (and horrors) difficult.  Believe me, I just spent a day and a half trying.

So.  Another time, then.  (Or not, since quite a lot of ink has been spilled about it since the movie version came out last year, including Garth Hallberg’s piece here at The Millions). Instead, I’m going to write about dogs.  And believe it or not, I’ve got a segue for this.  Here is April Wheeler, pleading with her husband Frank, during the first of several spectacular marital showdowns that take our breath away in Revolutionary Road:

“All right, Frank.  Could you just please stop talking now, before you drive me crazy?”

Then again, after one of Frank’s long-winded speeches, where he works to convince April that she needs to see a psychiatrist; that all their troubles are hers:

“Could we sort of stop talking about it now?”

And then later, part two of the argument featuring this particular tactic:

“I guess you’re right.  I guess there isn’t much more to say, then, is there?”

Finally, toward the end of the novel, in the midst of what becomes the most horrific (and final) knock-down between the Wheelers:

“Oh, Frank, you really are a wonderful talker.  If black could be made into white by talking, you’d be the man for the job.”

Talking talking talking.  This is what Frank Wheeler does best, has always done best; the mark of his supposed “first-rate, original mind”:

“…that men, and intelligent men at that, could actually want to listen to him talk…there was nothing average about his performance in the beery, all-night talks that had begun to form around him…”

But it’s this talking, ceaseless talking, that works as a kind of loaded gun in Yates’s tale of contrasexual warfare.  There is a brief, shining moment in their life together when talking brings Frank and April Wheeler together—indulgent talk of travel and new lives and authentic living; but for the most part in Revolutionary Road, talking destroys.  With his insistence on talking as control— including talking inside his own head, rationalizing cowardly acts and flabbiness of character—Frank commits a kind of irrevocable violence against his own soul and April’s by making neat with words what is not at all neat, or manageable, or knowable.  With talk, he wrenches and twists and throttles the life out of the human heart, because he doesn’t know what else to do with the messy frightening business of damage, grief, and longing.

II.

cover[Animals] look at us across a void made of the distance between their lives and our immersion in language. ‘Not a single one of his myriad sensations,’ wrote Virginia Woolf of Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s cocker spaniel, Flush, ‘ever submitted itself to the deformity of words.’  (from Mark Doty’s, Dog Years)

I’ve got dog on the brain, because my pup is turning 10 years old this year (yes, yes, that’s 70 in human years), and I’ve just purchased health insurance for him.  And in case you’re wondering, the answer is no – the U.S. health insurance overhaul does not include pet health insurance.  The three lumps that my pup has developed in the last year (all benign, not to worry) are not covered by the plan I just purchased for him; meaning, if any of them go rogue, it will be considered a “pre-existing condition.”  Same with the Lyme Disease for which he tested positive three years ago (to date not manifesting any symptoms).  So I guess I have to hope that new illnesses befall him—new lumps, new viruses, etc.—while the old ones remain innocuous.

On a windy, snowy winter day last year, I was walking my dog on a country road.  Normally, he does fine off-leash and doesn’t stray out of sight.  This time, I was listening to an audio book on my ipod and lost track of him.  For 15 minutes, I shouted his name, but he didn’t come.  I began climbing (sliding) down the steep embankments off the side of the road, trudging through ice-crusted snow at two-feet high, screaming his name into the bitter-cold wind, panicked.  A friend who lives on a farm in Minnesota had recently told me that the harsh winter was killing off the deer, both because of food supply and because as they made their way through the icy snow, they’d suffer severe cuts across their limbs and would bleed to death.  I remembered that there were a few ponds in the area, and I imagined him traipsing across one, then falling through the ice, limbs freezing before he could get his dog-paddle going.  After 45 minutes of this, I was breathless and sobbing, I fell to my knees in a pile.  I gathered myself, wiped the snot from my face, and walked slowly home to find him sitting on the porch, nose up, waiting.  That was when I knew—for the first time I really knew—that my attachment to my dog was something I couldn’t—shouldn’t—talk about with just anyone.

For a memoir unit in a creative writing class recently, I distributed to the students the first chapter of Mark Doty’s Dog Years, his memoir of the death of his dog Beau and the 16 years they spent together.  The students were not fans of the Doty excerpt (preferring a humorous essay by Sloane Crosley), finding his tone—in the first chapter at least—self-righteous.  It’s true, I suppose, that he opens the book in a defensive posture:

One of the unspoken truths of American life is how deeply people grieve over the animals who live and die with them, how real that emptiness is, how profound the silence is these creatures leave in their wake.  Our culture expects us not only to bear these losses alone, but to be ashamed of how deeply we feel them…

…no one should have to defend what he loves.  If I decide to become one of those dotty old people who live alone with six beagles, who on earth is harmed by the extremity of my affections?  There is little enough devotion in the world that we should be glad for it in whatever form it appears, and never mock it, or underestimate it depths.

A student said:  “Clearly, Mark Doty is one of these people who likes dogs more than he likes people.”  The student did not mean this in a neutral observation kind of way.  I laughed it off, trying not to betray my feeling of being caught out.

III.
coverThe following writers contributed to Unleashed: Poems By Writers’ Dogs, edited by Amy Hempel and Jim Shepard:

Edward Albee, Jennifer Allen, Danny Anderson, Lynda Barry, Rick Bass, Charles Baxter, Robert Benson, Roy Blount, Jr., Ron Carlson, Jill Ciment, Bernard Cooper, Stephen Dobyns, Mark Doty, Stephen Dunn, Anderson Ferrell, Amy Gerstler, Matthew Graham, Ron Hansen, Brooks Haxton, Cynthia Heimel, Amy Hempel, Noy Hollan, Andrew Hudgins, John Irving, Denis Johnson, R.S. Jones, Walter Kirn, Sheila Kohler, Maxine Kumin, Natalie Kusz, Anne Lamott, Gordon Lish, Ralph Lombreglia, Merrill Markoe, Pearson Marx, Erin McGraw, Heather McHugh, Arthur Miller, George Minot, Susan Minot, Honor Moore, Mary Morris, Alicia Muñoz, Elise Paschen, Padgett Powell, Wyatt Prunty, Lawrence Raab, Mark Richard, John Rybicki, Jeanne Schinto, Bob Shacochis, Jim Shepard, Karen Shepard, Lee Smith, Ben Sonnenberg, Kate Clark Spencer, Gerald Stern,
Terese Svoboda, William Tester, Abigail Thomas, Lily Tuck, Sidney Wade, Kathryn Walker, William Wegman

Amy Hempel has been known to bring her dog with her to graduate lectures.

If you haven’t read Jo Ann Beard’s “The Fourth State of Matter,” you really should.

A wonderful story by Stephanie Vaughn, “Dog Heaven,” begins like this—“Every so often that dead dog dreams me up again”—and features a heroic dog you’ll never forget.

IV.
It seems there may be some relationship between love for dogs and being a writer.  Not that to be a writer one must love dogs (steady down, cat-lovers), or that dog-lovers make for better writers.  Poet Susie DeFord, creator of the blog Dog Poet Laureate, puts it this way:

Animals are all about the little things, the insects buzzing and the scents of the earth and air; for writers these details that build a framework for our world and trigger emotional responses in our reader are our biggest asset.

It’s true — dogs and animals are keen observers, they listen and notice so well. We are drawn to their silent attentiveness instinctively, I think — creature to creature.

And, like a musician who is sensorially tortured by the off-pitch note, so a writer feels acutely, in mind and soul, the failures of human speech in everyday life  (how I dread talking on the phone, which relies solely on the forced expressions of speech, absent other physical cues).  The wordless companionship between dog and human offers the writer something like refuge from the necessary dishonesties — sometimes harmless,  yes, but just as often injurious — of talk.

When I teach the writing of dialogue, I try to convey that the key in rendering speech compellingly is to make it sound real, when in fact it is condensed, stylized, and carefully shaped from the lumpiness of verbatim transcription. I encourage students to eavesdrop, and to distill the principles of how people really talk, the essence of verbal intercourse.  What we’ve concluded in our discussions:

  • People generally do not say what they mean, or mean what they say
  • People tend not to listen very well; rather each person is more focused on what it is he wants to say
  • People speak in half-formed fragments more than complete sentences or fully-formed thoughts
  • There is almost always a power dynamic in any conversation, whether subtextual or overt

My God, why talk at all?  And Yates’s Frank Wheeler – the violence of his talking, of which he is tragically unaware – drives the point home for me. Stop talking, April Wheeler pleads repeatedly.  Frank’s “deformity of words” is more than she can bear as she desperately struggles to sort through her own distorted inner voices.  On some (sadly misguided) level, Frank and April are trying to love; but talking, Yates seems to posit convincingly in Revolutionary Road, is not love; it may even be anathema to it.  Tellingly, the last word of the novel belongs to Howard Givings–reticent husband of Helen Givings, the Wheelers’ real-estate agent and neighborhood busybody—who listens for as long as he can to his wife’s endless chattering, another version of Frank’s control-talk: “But from there on, Howard Givings heard only a welcome, thunderous sea of silence. He had turned off his hearing aid.”

From Doty:

Maybe [dogs] remind us…of our own origins, when our bodies were not yet assumed into the world of speech.  Then we could experience wordlessly, which must at once be a painful thing and a strange joy, a pure kind of engagement that adults never know again.

The intimacy—the purity—of silent togetherness is—I agree with Doty—a basic and original creaturely longing, and one that we find in our relationships with dogs. Somewhere between the painfully disappointing limits of verbalized human language and a dog’s humble, uncomplicated efforts at communication with its human—a wagging tail, a perked up ear, a whimper or a bark, a pushy wet nose, those insistent eyes—a writer finds rest from the assault of poorly-used words.

The skeptic of human-animal attachment wonders how much of this is arrested development.  Are dog and human together in anything but body—that is, are we concocting an intimacy born of some grotesque misanthropy—when we luxuriate in the assurance of a dog curled up at our feet, sighing contentedly? To which I say, who knows; and isn’t the not knowing the heart of the intimacy anyway? Whatever it is, there’s no need to either wonder or worry, because the togetherness is as real as any other—mysterious,  and beautifully wordless, a deep and welcome peace not unlike Howard Givings’s “thunderous sea of silence.”





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6 Responses to “Dogs, Revolutionary Road, and The Thunderous Sea of Silence”

  1. Grant
    at 9:42 am on November 23, 2009

    I warned my daughter long ago to brace herself anytime she read a novel with a dog playing a significant role: the dog is doomed, and the reader’s heart wrenched. Ditto many (non-comedic) movies. I now pick up any book in a bookstore that has a dog as a central character and flip to the back…if the dog is still alive, maybe I’ll buy it if otherwise interested. Dogs seem to serve a much larger role reflecting vulnerability, love that will always be bittersweet.

  2. Emily Pullen
    at 11:58 am on November 23, 2009

    MOPUS by Oisin Curran is a great novel about a writer and a dog and that silent-togetherness. Haunting, lyrical, cinematic. From Counterpath Press. Check it out!

  3. lisa peet
    at 12:02 pm on November 23, 2009

    I always wonder if it’s a copout as a writer — as someone who’s supposed to be able to do what I need to with words — to just say, “You either get it or you don’t” in regards to the dog thing. (See what I mean? “Dog thing.”) There’s a certain point where words just fail me. It’s not like trying to explain a human love, where presumably most people have at least enough of an inkling to get if you make your description accessible enough. Sometimes I think it’s like sexual orientation — you’re moved that way or you’re not. I’ve done some of my best writing about my connection with my dog, but I always suspect that on the other end the reader is either already one of the choir, with full understanding of what I’m talking about, or taking it at arm’s length as an anthropologist might. I’m not sure there’s a middle ground.

    Which is to say that of course I burst into tears when I read the bit where you thought your dog was lost, Sonya, but there’s only around 10% of the people in my office who might walk by my desk whom I’d tell why. The rest would get “Oh… allergies.” Good thing no one walks by my desk.

  4. david
    at 7:56 pm on November 23, 2009

    Quote from above: Our culture expects us not only to bear these losses alone, but to be ashamed of how deeply we feel them…

    I think it is more true for men than for women. When I had to put my elderly dog down last year, he was going on 19, still loved his lopsided walks, to eat, to hang with me, go for rides in the car. But then he got doggie dementia and somehow one just knows it is time. Women rallied round. Not that men were unsympathetic and a few told me about an old dog love of theirs. But the cultural taboo against deep grieving for a pet applies mostly to men. Some will disagree.

    Timbuktu by Paul Auster
    King Dog of the Street forget the author
    anything by Jon Katz on his dogs and his farm–particularly the inner work his dogs forced him to face and then do
    of course Story of Edgar Sawtelle
    film: Wendy and Lucy (has an ok ending folks)
    no films by indie director of George Washington (forget his name) because he always shows something very disturbing about a dog, even if it’s only a 2 second shot

  5. Sonya Chung
    at 6:29 pm on November 24, 2009

    Thanks, all, for the comments, and for the reading recs. David, I was pretty devastated by WENDY AND LUCY, but you’re right [SPOILER HERE}– things turn out much better for the dog than for the human. I hadn’t noticed that (disturbing dog shots) about David Gordon Green movies — I liked ALL THE REAL GIRLS.

    I found AMORES PERROS hard to watch.

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    at 12:27 pm on December 3, 2009

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